With the Valentine’s Day just around the corner, Evangelist Billy Graham has urged young couples and those seeking spouses to “seek God’s will for marriage”.
He offered “the most important advice” to his readers and said, “”If God loves you (and he does), can’t he be trusted to guide you in this all-important area of your life? Of course he can, because he knows your needs, and he wants what is best for you,” he explained. “Don’t go down the wrong road, no matter how tempting it seems right now. Instead, turn your life over to Jesus Christ, and seek his will for your future. Then have the courage to confront your boyfriend with his need for Christ, and to break off your relationship if he refuses. God’s way is always best, and he can be trusted to lead you to the spouse of his choice.”
A woman asked in the question and answers section advice on whether she should stick with her boyfriend who promised to stop drinking and find a good job once they are married.
Graham answered, “I may not give you the answer you’re hoping for – but to be frank, if he really loved you he’d make every effort to change his life right now. The Bible says, ‘Wisdom will save you … from men whose words are perverse’ (Proverbs 2:12),” he writes in the Bowling Green Daily News.
Throughout his ministry, Graham has seen many spouses who promised to change after marriage, yet they didn’t.
“Instead, they turned out to be concerned only for themselves – and once they were married, they didn’t see any reason to change. They also had little respect for their spouse’s needs and concerns, and in many cases proved unfaithful to their wedding vows,” shares Graham. “They ignored the Bible’s teaching that ‘Love is patient, love is kind… It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking’ (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).”
In an earlier commentary shared on his personal website, Graham explained that there is nothing wrong with possessing the desire to give love and to be loved, as God has given us the ability to do so.
“The Bible says, ‘We love because he first loved us’ (1 John 4:19). Think of it: Love is a gift from God!” he wrote. However, it’s easy to misuse such a gift, causing it to become destructive, the evangelist warned.
“True love isn’t just interested in what someone will give me; instead, it seeks to help them and serve them. Sadly, however, love easily becomes selfish and twisted, and instead of being beautiful and joyous, it becomes ugly and hurtful,” he writes. “The greatest discovery you’ll ever make is that God loves and wants you to become part of His family,” Graham concluded. “You are very valuable to Him-so valuable that His only Son was willing to give His life for you. Don’t stay on the road you’ve been on; it will never bring you happiness. Instead, by a simple prayer of faith confess your sins to God and ask Jesus to come into your heart and put your life on a new path-His path.”